Predictable Crises of Adulthood
Introduction
Every living human being goes through developmental stages whereby he or she moves from one developmental stage to another. This happens as people age and in every stage one learns new things about themselves. So what are some of the steps in the developmental ladder? How are these steps different from each other? What happens in these stages? Gail Sheehy answers these questions in her book i.e. “Predictable Crises of Adulthood.” In every stage, there are certain aspects in our life that occur. It is evident that every human being has his or her own learning space and thus people develop at different rates. In her book, “Predictable Crises of Adulthood,” Gail Sheehy tries to explain to us the developmental stages that we go through in our adulthood until old age. Gail Sheehy tells us of the events that are likely to occur when we are in our twenties, thirties, forties and so on. I am in the thirties stage, in Gail Sheehy’s developmental process. Gail Sheehy describes this stage as the ‘rooting and extending stage.’
I am a 31-year-old man residing in Central Washington, and I want a career whereby I am my own boss. Having just concluded first year in college, I feel as if I am behind career wise. Most of my age mates cleared their education almost six years ago. I am getting tired of hopping from one job to another. I am now searching for something that is going work out for me. Having just started college, I will finish my education in three years time. I will be 34 years of age by then. I want to own my own business where I will not have to report to anyone as my boss. I want to establish a career that will generate substantial income, which will enable me to feed my kids and expand my business. I now understand have realized that I took certain aspects of my life for granted. Now all I want and need to do is take have power over of my life. One of my priorities is to amass wealth that will cater for my family’s needs present and in the future.
I am now thinking about the future of my kids. At thirty-one, years old, I am a proud father of two boys and a girl residing in Central Washington. The fact that I have a concern about the future of my kids is an evidence that am in the ‘thirties’ group. As a father, I would not want my three kids to start college as late as I have done. I want my kids to finish school by the time they reach 25 years. I started college late because of lack of funds to pay my tuition fees. I would detest this to be the case for my kids. I am putting up a college fund because of this. This is to ensure that my kids will not lack tuition fees. I have a concern about the comfort of my family, and I want my kids to each follow their dreams and become responsible citizens in the society. This is not a simple task. Sometimes I feel like am hitting rock bottom but am positive that things will work out. I am certain that I will succeed.
My marriage is now becoming an issue that I need to consider. My wife is of the opinion that I am not spending enough time with her and my kids. She says that I involve myself too much in my work and studies. We are fighting often. This is affecting my marriage. As a man, I want my kids to have their parents close by, and that is why I suggested that my wife stays at home and raise the kids. She wants to follow a career path too, but this will affect our children’s development since she will be absent most of the time. I would want my wife and me to renew our vows and be happy as we raise our kids. We have just been married a few years, but I want both of us to grow old together. I want us to watch our kids grow and start their own families. There is nothing that would make me happy than to see my kids succeed in life and to lead a happy life. As much as I want a career for my wife, I would rather want her to be near the kids always.
There is nothing more I want than to accomplish my life-long goals. I am more aware of myself than before. I know my weaknesses and strengths. My focus is better than before. I have a well-outlined career path and my goals are clear. I want to accomplish my dream of starting my own business. I want to establish an empire that will bring changes in my society especially where I live in Central Washington. I want to finish school as quickly as I can because am too old to be in college at this age. Everyone in this life desires a good future and happiness in his or her life. I want a happy life and a happy marriage with my wife. The only way that one can accomplish this is through hard work and obligation to one’s goals. Life is full of opportunities, and I believe that the only way to succeed is to seize every opportunity as it presents itself. I will only be satisfied with my life when I accomplish these goals.
